I started thinking about this because of an orkut question - "What are your turnoffs?" Instantly I wrote - hypocrisy! That's when I began seeking answers to all the questions I posed...
Over time I've realized WHEN I hate hypocrisy. I don't like it when someone close to me behaves like a hypocrite. I prefer it when someone says "what is" on my face rather than behind my back. But I've no control over people talking... So this doesn't bother me as much as the fact that people say things without meaning them...
A friend of mine had said she believes that communication can sort out almost anything, but when we had a misunderstanding, she refused to talk it out with me!!
On a more general level, I think most of our customs/beliefs/rituals are hypocritical. One classic example would be the society's non-acceptance of 'love'. If we take any story from the hindu mythology - the most important aspect is love. (I'm not getting into further controversial details!! Don't want to hurt public sentiments!! - Fine! I accept I'm a hypocrite!!!) When I ask "Why then the hesitance?" The prompt reply is - "We're mere mortals!"
By now, probably everyone must be saying "What's the big deal about this? We don't like hypocrites as well? How different are you?"
Well, let me justify... The difference is I can't accept hypocrisy. I feel strongly about it. There've been times when I've gone overboard, like for instance I mailed that same friend with whom I had issues, blatantly telling her things were still not ok between us and I just couldn't pretend! I felt pretty stupid later. I mean I could have continued to put on an act... It was not like she was going to give a damn anyway! I didn't even receive a reply for that mail!! But deep within I felt good. Like a burden was lifted off my shoulders...
Will hypocrisy continue to bother me? Will I give in eventually? As in will I EVER befriend a hypocrite??? You never know...
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